Adda B Say So:How To Be Grateful
By Fatima Zahra Umar
Have you ever taken something for granted only to lament after it was taken from you? My guess is you have at some point in your life. And when it was taken away from you, you would have given anything to have it back, even if for a short while. Even if it was just to get a glimpse. I know. I have been there.
Why is it that we only miss the water when the well goes dry? Why is it that we don’t appreciate the water when the well is full? Is it in our nature as human beings to be ungrateful?
Gratitude is more than just saying thank you when you receive a gift; it is also nurturing and appreciating that gift every day that you have it. It is refusing to get complacent with the gift. It is a continuous thing. It is something that we should all strive to make a part of our lives.
Years ago, I lost a very special friend of mine. When the person passed, I couldn’t stop going over our conversations. I wished I would get even just one minute to say how much I loved her. To tell her how much I valued her in my life. But it was too late. One thing I learnt from losing her was that one has to be grateful for every day, for everything (the good, the bad and the ugly). I realised that life itself is a huge blessing, and everything in it is also a blessing, the good times and the trials are all blessings. I realised that to truly live a fulfilling life, one must be grateful for EVERY single thing.
Every day you wake up, there is something to be grateful for. The nice bed you woke up in, the roof over your head, the hot water in your bathroom, the electricity (whether NEPA or gen let us thank God), the blanket (especially the blanket!), and the list goes on and on.
This discovery inspired me to start keeping a gratitude journal. It’s like a diary or journal but with a twist. Every day you list three things you are grateful for and relate it to an event that happened during your day. As the days passed by, I started to see the enormous blessings in my life! I started to understand that I was very blessed to be living the life I have. And a lot of things also start to matter less as my heart filled with gratitude. Over the years, the simple act of being grateful has completely changed me as a person. And I am so grateful to be in the Heavens for that too!
When you are grateful, when you approach life with an attitude of gratitude it increases your blessings. It’s not a lie my people! This is a personal testimony. And I know many others will agree with me that gratitude is the key to more blessings and fulfillment in life. In the same vein, being ungrateful causes you to lose the blessings that you refused to acknowledge and/or appreciate.
Another way to be grateful is to use your gift/blessing to benefit others. If you have been blessed with something then, in my opinion, you have a responsibility to share that blessing with everyone around you. My Grandfather used to say that even if all you know how to do is say funny things, then make sure you make as many people as possible laugh as much as you can because no blessing is useless. And he was right! If you have money, give charity, help out relatives, and do as much as you can for those around you who are less fortunate than you are. If you have been blessed with intellect, then teach as many as you can. Don’t be like that guru everyone hated in University for hoarding knowledge. Because the truth is that a blessing not shared is not going to do much for you either. Even that guru, what did it benefit him, since we all passed our exams and mostly have better jobs than him. Even if it is cooking skills that God has blessed you with, then teach as many as you can to cook(you may even be saving a marriage and not know it!),and of course feed as many people as you can with your delicious meals. Whatever it is that’s your gift, don’t forget to be grateful for it. Don’t forget to nurture it to benefit others so that you may benefit from more and more blessings.
Because at the end of the day, which of the favors of your Lord will you deny?
So be grateful, every day. Be grateful for everything.
Because Adda B Say So!