All Hail The King
By Fatima Abubakar
Compelled by boredom one beautiful afternoon in 2010, I turned on the TV and I saw a program running, at first I thought ‘ah, spare me, yan siyasan Nigeria ne, yan karya’. Then I flipped through channels and came back to Silverbird TV, the title of the program was very catchy. It was ‘Silverbird MAN OF THE YEAR AWARD’. The very curious cat in me ached to see who that would go to, on what basis will the man be chosen? Was it how fancy he could appear? Was it about the person’s worth financially, or was it just about the man whose diction was unbeatable?
Well… I let it play, not paying full attention until a voice hit my ear. Man… Mutumin ya iya turanci!! I dropped my phone, (ba karamin abu ke raba ni da waya ta ba) and listened, I wanted to hear how much reason would come from this calm yet commanding voice, in a neatly fitted suit. It was the then CBN Governor, now Emir of Kano, his eminence, Muhammad Sanusi Lamido Sanusi II. I was very impressed, more than that, I was humbled and filled with pride. There was a difference to Sarki Sanusi. There was sincerity in the words he spoke. He is a man who isn’t afraid of truth’ komai dacinta”.
I was sad when he left the Central Bank of Nigeria, because I thought no one could do better. Ance wani hani ga Allah baiwa Ce. Then he became Sarkin Kano! Mixed feelings, like shikenan, bazai sake saka suit ba? Very sad! But again, abu da masu shi, being king brought about the break of a new dawn, especially to the OPPRESSED AND ABUSED AREWA (KANO) WOMAN.
Imagine, daga Sama kawai, a voice for you. One that must be hearkened to; a compassionate voice with the best of our interest as women at heart, but we chose not to focus on the problems, rather we seek to deflect and focus on the faults of the messenger. Well, Ni ba yar siyasa bace, so this isn’t about politics, or even about The Emir. Too many people have turned deaf ears to the issues; the one person that wants them to be faced squarely is being maligned. I agree that the way he put things may have deflated your ego as a man, or may have pointed to your failures over the years as a father, and a husband hence your protest. But we’ve come too far into this mess to sugar coat things. You’ve become too accustomed to your ways, which may not necessarily be right, that you fear what the change may bring. These are real life problems, as real as the air we breathe. Feel free to rant, but wherever you go, you should be ashamed, if nothing else, for not being able to view these things as logical. Normal has become so abnormal, people are afraid to commit to change.
‘Don’t build mosques, educate our daughters’ The Emir said.
Ina laifin mai nema wa ‘yar ka CIGABA? What is so wrong in someone stating that we don’t need more mosques but schools? The One who sanctioned worship in the mosque also sanctioned literacy,’ from cradle to grave’. Our problems all spring up from one root, ILLITERACY! Think of illiteracy as a sprouting seed that becomes a giant tree, with large, strong immutable branches. These branches are early marriages, divorce, and scary maternal mortality rates. All connected, one thing leads to another in a circular motion that we’re always back to where we started.
I think it’s high time we looked past the bridges of our noses, rayuwar ta fi gaban aure da haihuwa, da kuma Jin haushin mai Neman a gyaran! Educating a woman is equivalent to educating a nation! She trains herself, her children, and they train their own children, and the chain goes like that. Kai Malam training dinma takan shafe ka, in several ways.
You marry a girl off at 13 or 14, knowing fully well, being a man, how men operate. She’s yet to be aware of herself, an daura mata nauyin a whole other human and an entirely different life. She behaves like the child that she is and he’s unable to handle her. After a year, maybe pregnancy or a kid, he divorces her back home with VVF, a broken heart, and a scarred bruised soul. Even our marriages will do better if we take time to nurture relationships and “breed” the “candidates” for marriage. Let us be taught as women that we weren’t made to be beaten by any man. Toh Sarki ya ce a rama mari kun ce Yana koya mana rashin kunya. Kai waya ce ka daka? Teach the men that no woman should be beaten, no matter what she does. Nothing should warrant it.
Toh ashe saurar magana na gaba! Our Emir further sought to ease life for his people, sun maida shi makiyin su. I’ve never imagined a person would blatantly just refuse to see reason in plain truth. On a normal day ai kai ya kamata ka wa kanka fada. Cin yau da kyar, na gobe da kyar, but you still find time between complaining about how hard and tedious life is, to look at and even make known the intention to marry your 5th daughters mate as your 4th wife. The sad part is sai a Ce Sunna Ce. This person you’re trying hard to emulate had so much regard for his 1st wife; he didn’t marry, until after she passed away. Toh ka gwada haka mana kaima!
Marriage is a beautiful thing. When done right, that is. Not the hassle and daily struggle to feed 4 women and 26 children under you. It is so bad that the children are left to fend for themselves! To meye laifin Mai Martaba Sarki Sunusi dan yace kayi daya? You might find that life is even easier for you a haka. You’ll say he has 4 and he doesn’t want you to enjoy abi? Da ana kwarkwara yanzu ma zai yi, su kuma rayu cikin daula.
All fingers are not equal. The problem isn’t The Emir or how he said things. The problem is that we refuse to deal with the problems. The earlier we realize as yan Arewa that marriage isn’t the peak of all achievements in life, the better we’ll all live.